Step 1: Meet a very sweet, very cute girl who has grown up indoctrinated by the church but nonetheless knows she is not actually straight, and is craving the opportunity to explore her queer side.
Step 2: Be incredibly friendly and respectful, answer any questions she may have, and offer advice when asked. Play fun get-to-know-you games.
Step 3: Wait to be flirted with before making any moves, because you know what she's been through, and you know that she is scared and uncertain. When given the green light, offer mild flirtation and wait for approval before repeating.
Step 4: Meet for dinner, at her request. Absolutely kill it. Exchange affectionate texts when both of you get home, and pine slightly when she tells you she really, really wishes she had been brave enough to kiss you the way she'd wanted.
Step 5: Make several more plans to meet up, and be patient and understanding when she cancels each one because she is unsure of what she wants and how to proceed.
Step 6: Back off until she comes on strong. Flirt back. Tell her jokes when she asks for them. Flirt harder when she requests it. Share personal information when she offers some to you, in exchange.
Step 7: Continue being kind, patient, and understanding when she says she needs more time to work out her feelings and come to terms with what she wants. Respect her wishes by ceasing all flirtation and allowing her to initiate further conversation.
Step 8: Get ghosted.
Step 9: Get a message two months later explaining that she doesn't think she can be friends with you anymore, on account of how you flirted too much, and it's weird now. Explain that you never meant to pressure her, that you only ever flirted by request, and that it's confusing and a little hurtful to be blamed for this.
Step 10: Get blocked.
(Optional) Step 11: Go back to pining for your best friend, who you are still in love with and still cannot have, now that your desired distraction has failed.
Step 2: Be incredibly friendly and respectful, answer any questions she may have, and offer advice when asked. Play fun get-to-know-you games.
Step 3: Wait to be flirted with before making any moves, because you know what she's been through, and you know that she is scared and uncertain. When given the green light, offer mild flirtation and wait for approval before repeating.
Step 4: Meet for dinner, at her request. Absolutely kill it. Exchange affectionate texts when both of you get home, and pine slightly when she tells you she really, really wishes she had been brave enough to kiss you the way she'd wanted.
Step 5: Make several more plans to meet up, and be patient and understanding when she cancels each one because she is unsure of what she wants and how to proceed.
Step 6: Back off until she comes on strong. Flirt back. Tell her jokes when she asks for them. Flirt harder when she requests it. Share personal information when she offers some to you, in exchange.
Step 7: Continue being kind, patient, and understanding when she says she needs more time to work out her feelings and come to terms with what she wants. Respect her wishes by ceasing all flirtation and allowing her to initiate further conversation.
Step 8: Get ghosted.
Step 9: Get a message two months later explaining that she doesn't think she can be friends with you anymore, on account of how you flirted too much, and it's weird now. Explain that you never meant to pressure her, that you only ever flirted by request, and that it's confusing and a little hurtful to be blamed for this.
Step 10: Get blocked.
(Optional) Step 11: Go back to pining for your best friend, who you are still in love with and still cannot have, now that your desired distraction has failed.